If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy – Dale Carnegie
What’s holding you back?
For me it was FEAR – Fear of failure. Fear of being ridiculed. Fear of being wrong. Fear of not living up to expectations. Fear of losing everything I’d worked so hard for. For of what people would say or think.
My goal was to leave my full-time job as a nurse, start a cleaning business and work for myself. I wanted the freedom and autonomy that comes with being self employed. I wanted to set my own schedule and work my own hours. I wanted to choose where I work and who I work with. But I couldn’t realize any of this until I overcame my fears.
A lot has been written on the subject and there are several strategies we can implement to overcome our fears and move to a higher level of awareness.
Focus on the lesson
Remove the word “fail’ from the equation. If your first approach doesn’t work, consider it a lesson and adjust your plan accordingly. Try to learn something new every day. By moving your state of mind from failing to learning you’ll be more inclined to take action.
Learning is fun too and the more you learn, the more you’ll grow.
You either win or you learn – Conor McGregor
Visualise the outcome
No-one knows you better then yourself. You know what you struggle with. You know what you find difficult. You know what lessons you need to learn in order to grow.
Visualise the lesson. What’s the worst case scenario? How does it make you feel? Listen to the negative thoughts that arise. Embrace the anxiety.
Now conquer the lesson! Visualise the best case scenario. How will you act? What will you say? How will you overcome the situation? Stand tall, shoulders back, head held high. Embrace the lesson. Learn what you can and keep moving forward. Never look back.
Believe in yourself
Your skills and intelligence are not “fixed”.
A growth mindset allows you to overcome any fear through direct and purposeful effort. You can become great at any task or action, within reason, through consistent practice and an understanding that your abilities are only determined by what you believe is possible.
Mindset is everything. Conceive, believe, achieve.
In a growth mindset, challenges are exciting rather than threatening. So rather than thinking “oh, I’m going to reveal my weakness” you say “wow, here’s a chance to grow” – Carol Dweck
Finally, you can reduce your level of fear by being present. Let go of the past, the past is gone. Don’t worry about the future, the future isn’t here yet. Be present. Dwell only in this moment. In this moment, there is no fear.
Breathing is a means of awakening and maintaining full attention in order to look carefully, long and deeply, see the nature of all things and arrive at liberation – Thich Nhat Hanh